To be completely honest, I am not too into hand spanking (or any kind of spanking). It just doesn’t really feel good to me, especially the harder swats. Now, that does not mean that I am completely against it, there is just a really fine line for me.
That said, I absolutely love the playful little spanks, both giving and receiving. I find it a huge shock (and compliment) when a partner suddenly grabs or lightly spanks my ass. It can also be hot hot or twice during sex if done lightly.
I can’t really think of a time when spanking was used a lot. Thinking back, I really only got a thrill out of it when it was used in a playful manner, and only even then when I was in the middle of sexless relationships and that was the only physical interaction I got. I learned to take what I could get and thrive off of that. It is kind of sad when you think about it.
I think it is great that others can get such a thrill out of it, and I do admire them when there are marks left over from their own spankings.