Thank you to ‘Rants from the Erotic Rogue‘ for this week’s TMI Tuesday.
Looking back on our lives, we can have a mix of reactions to the things we’ve done. When it comes to sex, our memories can color us with pride, fondness, nostalgia, indifference, or all too often, regret.
This week’s TMI Tuesday questions delve into things that people typically regret later in life. How much do you regret, if at all, any of the following?
**Note- Sorry it’s a bit late, had something already scheduled for Tuesday. I will note that I have never believed in regrets, as I feel that anything that happens is a learning experience in some way or another, opening doors to even better experiences. **
1. Do you regret how you “lost” your virginity? If yes, why and to whom would you have preferred to have lost it?
As I said in my note above, I don’t really believe in regrets, but my first time really sucked, and not in the good way. The person did not care about me in the way that I wanted, but I always wanted to give him a chance. In some ways I feel disappointed that Toby was my first, but in other ways I am glad that it wasn’t with an ex because in some ways I would still be attached. However, I do know that if it had been with a boyfriend at the time, it would have been a much more special and memorable experience. However, I think if I had waited for my first time to be with a boyfriend, I don’t think I would have had the courage to have the awesome sex experiences that I have had.
2. Have you ever lived a moment in your life where you said “Yeah, I’m not going to ever tell anyone about that.” Describe that moment or incident.
Honestly, with all my sexual experiences, I have always been eager to write about it on my blog, no matter how horrid/funny/embarrassing it might have been. That’s what the blog is for, right?
3. Do you regret having acted on a sexual impulse? If yes, please describe.
I have never regretted, but I have felt guilty. A time in particular was the first time I hooked up with D in the woods behind our college campus when I didn’t even know his name at the time. Luckily though, I no longer feel guilty about that experience, and in fact think of it as one of my favorites.
4. Do you regret not having had sex with someone who you could have had sex? If yes, would you do it over and have sex?
I almost, key work almost, wish I had had sex with Ex#4, as I know he would have made it special, and probably way better than Toby. However, I am more glad that I didn’t because I don’t think I would have left him from being so attached (even though I was miserable in the end).
5. Do you regret not having asked out or tried to hook up with someone you really liked out of fear of rejection only to later learn that person wanted you, too? If yes, please describe.
Actually, no I have not. I have had sex with the people that I have wanted to (and even some I didn’t really want to), but never have I really missed out. No one has really wanted me if I was interested in them. I know that sounds terrible, but its kinda true.
6. Do you regret having done a particular sex act? If yes, please describe.
As I have said several times, I really don’t believe in regret. I see all of my sexual times as learning experiences, either learning what not what to do or what I could do better for next time.
Bonus: Do you regret not having told someone you love them? Romantic, not familial or friendship love.
I have always been pretty honest about my feelings of love. I more wish I hadn’t told some people at the time that I loved them, but to be fair at that time I thought I really did think/feel that I loved them at the time. Love is funny that way. It clouds judgments, and each new love seems stronger and more true than the last.
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Happy TMI Tuesday!